tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post7111809606495709016..comments2023-09-05T12:51:25.656-05:00Comments on edittorrent: An Editor Is Not.....Edittorrenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14295505709568570553noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-40907878590842505722008-01-26T10:35:00.000-06:002008-01-26T10:35:00.000-06:00That sounds like a sensible approach, Dara, and pr...That sounds like a sensible approach, Dara, and productive for both of you. :)<BR/><BR/>AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-55390666582335500312008-01-26T10:18:00.000-06:002008-01-26T10:18:00.000-06:00I had that same college experience! I love my edi...I had that same college experience! I love my editor and really enjoy working with her. She GETS my humor, so when something confuses her, I always get rid of it. I've learned to trust her instincts implicitly, but I wouldn't say we're friend. She makes my books better, so anything I submit to that publisher I naturally want her to edit - for the sake of my work. <BR/>Great advice. Thanks.Dara Edmondsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03074955377079380225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-53219061107013652102008-01-25T23:09:00.000-06:002008-01-25T23:09:00.000-06:00I remember in college, everyone who with a pre-exi...I remember in college, everyone who with a pre-existing friendship with a roommate ended up hating him/her. It was as if changing the role changed the dynamics too much.<BR/><BR/>It's amazing some marriages last. :)<BR/><BR/>AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-6628323101783315032008-01-25T11:58:00.000-06:002008-01-25T11:58:00.000-06:00Perhaps, although I'm sure we can come up with ple...Perhaps, although I'm sure we can come up with plenty of anecdotes about professional relationships ruining preexisting friendships, too. Human relationships are such fragile things, aren't they?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-37134623039197777812008-01-25T09:57:00.000-06:002008-01-25T09:57:00.000-06:00I think it probably matters if you were friends fi...I think it probably matters if you were friends first and professional colleagues after that? That seems more workable.<BR/><BR/>AliciaEdittorrenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295505709568570553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-80547464902524096182008-01-25T09:18:00.000-06:002008-01-25T09:18:00.000-06:00I think it's possible for it to work, as long as b...I think it's possible for it to work, as long as both parties recognize that the professional relationship is about the money, and the friendship relationship can't touch on that. It requires a high degree of ethics on the part of both, and I think that's why it often doesn't work out. Cases in point are your examples, Alicia. However, there are many examples of business partnerships between friends that have worked, so it's not impossible. It seems to me, though, that it works best between peers, not between people where one is providing services to the other.<BR/><BR/>This is all opinion based on anecdotal evidence, of course, not rigorously researched. (Yeah, my bachelor's is in economics, and I still remember how to hedge. ;) )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-78531790057188785682008-01-25T00:16:00.000-06:002008-01-25T00:16:00.000-06:00Well, what good can come out of thinking that your...Well, what good can come out of thinking that your editor is a friend?<BR/><BR/>As for agents, I was quite close to an agent of mine years ago. We bonded over our similar tragedies. A year or so later, it became clear that she was lying to me when she said she'd sent out my proposals. She hadn't. I lost a year there, but even knowing that, I couldn't fire her. We were friends, after all. <BR/><BR/>I was also friends with a broker once. I kept taking his tips and investing money, even after he lost most of my little nest egg. We were friends, after all, and I sure didn't want him to be fired for losing business! And when I found out that he had deliberately touted losing stocks because his boss had told him too, I felt betrayed. I couldn't believe he'd do that to a friend.<BR/><BR/>I never had an editor who became a friend. I suspect that's because most editors are more professional than brokers and agents, and draw the line at fraternizing with those whose books they might have to reject. <BR/><BR/>Miss Manners says that the forcing of personal into professional is an American issue. (Remember all those pundits who kept saying that the best candidate was the guy you wanted to have a beer with? Like that actually would make a good president.) Mushing up loyalties is always dangerous. Does your friend owe you more or less than she owes her employer? You got me... all I know is I don't want to have to make the wrong assumption there-- not with the future at stake. <BR/><BR/>But maybe others have had good experiences mixing the personal with the professional? Obviously I haven't, and I've never seen it work, and I've seen the bad effects of it (like writers who have damaged their careers by "staying true" to editors who left a publisher in some conflict). But maybe there are good things that have happened, like someone who has benefitted financially from having friends in high places?<BR/><BR/>AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6824896765631412903.post-35017664006669537082008-01-24T21:35:00.000-06:002008-01-24T21:35:00.000-06:00But you can be friends with people you DON'T work ...But you can be friends with people you DON'T work with, right?<BR/><BR/>So I can count every agent who ever rejects me as a buddy?<BR/><BR/>Weird.<BR/><BR/>IanIanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497045412007902460noreply@blogger.com